As I read and hear about the times people like my mother and other old-schoolers experienced, I'm astounded to see how far we've come in this country (e.g. President Barack Obama), yet sometimes I'm digusted to see where we are and where we're headed when I walk down the street or take public transportation en route to work.
But, I wasn't on my way to work when I experienced what I experienced for the first time a week after 29th birthday. I was on the bus on my way home from a friend's going-away party. As a man exited the back door of the bus, he looked at me and yelled, "You've got to be the ugliest nigger bitch I've ever seen!"
As one can imagine, I was in complete and utter shock. I was in disbelief. This is 2011, not 1961, right?! I'm not oblivious to the fact President Obama's presence stirred up controversy and brought out hate in people who've wanted to express it (and are expressing it, some are more obvious about it than others). But, seriously? Sure, the man was intoxicated from some substance, but he knows and meant what he said. My sister tells me, "What he meant was you were one of the most beautiful women he's ever seen."
I recall that feeling from that moment a week ago, and it wasn't a good one. True, I know who I am, but it's still disturbing that kind of hate still exists. It was interesting to read just two days later in an article "My First Time" I wasn't the only one. What saddens me even more is I won't be the last.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Sunday, January 2, 2011
A Twist of Fate
A few days ago, my hair stylist was unavailable to twist my hair, so one of her friends stepped in for her. Her name is Lucinda and she's from Cameroon.
It wasn't until two hours after Lucinda started twisting my hair (which is a six-hour process) that we started our conversation. As we watched the ABC7 middday news, Chicago mayoral candidates appeared on the screen and briefly discussed their "platforms". At this time, Lucinda asked me who I supported. I told her I was undecided because I needed to do more research on the candidates. This sparked our intriguing conversation for the duration of my time in the chair.
During our convo, Lucinda told me about her country, which included the similarities and differences in Cameroon's and the U.S.'s government (I love how she loves Barack & Michelle!). I was shocked to hear how many people from other parts of the world know just as much (if not more) about what's happening on U.S. soil, yet she says we only see a fraction of what's going on over there. Six years ago, Lucinda made the decision to leave ALL of her family to come to the U.S. She hasn't seen them since she left. My heart broke for her because although she can speak to them on the phone and email them, I can't fathom not being able to see my family...for years!
And it's not by choice.
Lucinda experienced difficulties coming to the U.S. and maintaining her VISA status, and she explained her family would endure it as well.
While she talked about the history of her country and schooled me on other little-known facts about Africa in general, we discussed the African-American community in the U.S. She recounted how some black people treated her here, as if she wasn't human, which is why she tends to keep to herself. She proclaimed to me how her personality (much like many Africans, according to her) speaks the truth...LOUD AND PROUD! She said she either speaks the truth or doesn't speak at all (that's an idea I believe many should learn to follow). It was interesting to hear how people from her country refer to her and people like her who move to the U.S. as "white", much like people referred me as "white" because of how I spoke, the clothes I wore, the music I listened to, etc.
It was refreshing to find a common thread in this young lady from the other side of the world. It was also yet another reminder how much we as human beings have more in common with one another than we realize.
It wasn't until two hours after Lucinda started twisting my hair (which is a six-hour process) that we started our conversation. As we watched the ABC7 middday news, Chicago mayoral candidates appeared on the screen and briefly discussed their "platforms". At this time, Lucinda asked me who I supported. I told her I was undecided because I needed to do more research on the candidates. This sparked our intriguing conversation for the duration of my time in the chair.
During our convo, Lucinda told me about her country, which included the similarities and differences in Cameroon's and the U.S.'s government (I love how she loves Barack & Michelle!). I was shocked to hear how many people from other parts of the world know just as much (if not more) about what's happening on U.S. soil, yet she says we only see a fraction of what's going on over there. Six years ago, Lucinda made the decision to leave ALL of her family to come to the U.S. She hasn't seen them since she left. My heart broke for her because although she can speak to them on the phone and email them, I can't fathom not being able to see my family...for years!
And it's not by choice.
Lucinda experienced difficulties coming to the U.S. and maintaining her VISA status, and she explained her family would endure it as well.
While she talked about the history of her country and schooled me on other little-known facts about Africa in general, we discussed the African-American community in the U.S. She recounted how some black people treated her here, as if she wasn't human, which is why she tends to keep to herself. She proclaimed to me how her personality (much like many Africans, according to her) speaks the truth...LOUD AND PROUD! She said she either speaks the truth or doesn't speak at all (that's an idea I believe many should learn to follow). It was interesting to hear how people from her country refer to her and people like her who move to the U.S. as "white", much like people referred me as "white" because of how I spoke, the clothes I wore, the music I listened to, etc.
It was refreshing to find a common thread in this young lady from the other side of the world. It was also yet another reminder how much we as human beings have more in common with one another than we realize.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Feeling the Beat of the Rhythm of the Night with El DeBarge, A True Talent
A few weeks ago, I was graced with the presence of the one and only El DeBarge at Chicago's hottest new club, (and one of my favorite spots) The Shrine.
The talented singer and musician performed all of the faves from Switch's "There"ll Never Be" and "I Call Your Name" to his hits with DeBarge that included "Time Will Reveal", "I Like It", "All This Love" and "Rhythm of the Night". With Chicago musicians and backup vocals backing him in the intimate setting of the club's atmosphere, it really felt like all of El's love was with each and every one of us. At least, I felt like it was for me (he looked right at me twice, I don't care what my sister says, but I digress...).
What can I say? That man has still got it! He had me screaming like a teenager one moment, while shedding a tear like a lovestruck lady the next. He hit every note and could still move like he did 2o+ years ago. It's no secret El has faced tragedy and experienced difficult times in his life. But, he wants (and deserves) a second chance, which is why he's coming out with his new CD, Second Chance, set to be released at the end of the month. His track with Faith on the CD is pretty tight, I must say.
Much love to El and thank you for bringing your love and talents to Chicago!
The talented singer and musician performed all of the faves from Switch's "There"ll Never Be" and "I Call Your Name" to his hits with DeBarge that included "Time Will Reveal", "I Like It", "All This Love" and "Rhythm of the Night". With Chicago musicians and backup vocals backing him in the intimate setting of the club's atmosphere, it really felt like all of El's love was with each and every one of us. At least, I felt like it was for me (he looked right at me twice, I don't care what my sister says, but I digress...).
What can I say? That man has still got it! He had me screaming like a teenager one moment, while shedding a tear like a lovestruck lady the next. He hit every note and could still move like he did 2o+ years ago. It's no secret El has faced tragedy and experienced difficult times in his life. But, he wants (and deserves) a second chance, which is why he's coming out with his new CD, Second Chance, set to be released at the end of the month. His track with Faith on the CD is pretty tight, I must say.
Much love to El and thank you for bringing your love and talents to Chicago!
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
BLACK GIRLS ROCK! DUH!
I know I'm a little late talking about this, so please forgive me. As a journalist, it's important to be timely, but to no fault of my own (my other job) I missed the first airing of BET's "BLACK GIRLS ROCK". The last two days, I've heard nothing but rave reviews of the show. From comments on Facebook to commentary from my mother, "BLACK GIRLS ROCK!" sent a message loud and clear for the world to hear. And the world was listening.
The other day, my mom was discussing the deets from the show with me and said, "YOU ROCK!" (I think my mom rocks too and I told her so.) I thought that was one of the most precious things I could hear from my 66-year-old mommy. One of my favorite sayings is I could put her in a display cube and put her on my dresser. :) But I digress...
In this day and age with an African-American First Lady in the White House, we look at how far we've come. (I wish my grandmother was here to see it.) Unfortunately, in other aspects, we're reminded of how much work we need to do. But, shows such as these FINALLY reflect the positivity in our community. As a journalist, I take responsibility in saying the media (of which I am a member) MUST take that responsibility in portraying the positive lights in our community, rather putting the spotlight on the negative parts of it. Every opp I have, I choose to write about a black girl who rocks. And there are A LOT of us out there!
Young girls and ladies need more shows like these and programs to reflect why we rock and how hard we rock! From the various ways we rep our beautiful manes and our stylish flair to our intelligence, strength, wisdom and creativity, WE ROCK HARD!
One of my favorite black girls who rocks (literally) is Chicago hip-hop alternative artist Nikki Lynette. I'll leave you with a quote from her, which is one of my all-time favorite quotes I captured as a journalist.
"My life kind of rocks right now, and I want it to rock harder."
The other day, my mom was discussing the deets from the show with me and said, "YOU ROCK!" (I think my mom rocks too and I told her so.) I thought that was one of the most precious things I could hear from my 66-year-old mommy. One of my favorite sayings is I could put her in a display cube and put her on my dresser. :) But I digress...
In this day and age with an African-American First Lady in the White House, we look at how far we've come. (I wish my grandmother was here to see it.) Unfortunately, in other aspects, we're reminded of how much work we need to do. But, shows such as these FINALLY reflect the positivity in our community. As a journalist, I take responsibility in saying the media (of which I am a member) MUST take that responsibility in portraying the positive lights in our community, rather putting the spotlight on the negative parts of it. Every opp I have, I choose to write about a black girl who rocks. And there are A LOT of us out there!
Young girls and ladies need more shows like these and programs to reflect why we rock and how hard we rock! From the various ways we rep our beautiful manes and our stylish flair to our intelligence, strength, wisdom and creativity, WE ROCK HARD!
One of my favorite black girls who rocks (literally) is Chicago hip-hop alternative artist Nikki Lynette. I'll leave you with a quote from her, which is one of my all-time favorite quotes I captured as a journalist.
"My life kind of rocks right now, and I want it to rock harder."
Thursday, October 21, 2010
MY Beauty Equation
A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure to meet America's Next Top Model judge and photographer Nigel Barker. I have to admit I was star-struck! His stunning beauty (absolutely handsome!), his accent, his demeanor and the way he spoke to me with his eyes left me speechless for seconds, or more like minutes, as my editor interviewed him and I took notes. As I listened to the captivating words from his mouth (which included his beauty equation), it all made sense why I think he is beautiful. He was more than a gorgeous face with a sexy accent. He was a man who truly gets it.
We all have our own definition of beauty and Nigel said "it's our imperfections that make us perfect". That's when it clicked. That's when I thought about the way my right eye closes a little when I pose for a picture. Think about that scar on that person's face that gives him character and tells a story. Reflect on how it blends in with his skin to cause a dimple to match the ones when he smiles at you.
I see beauty in love. I see beauty in nature. I see beauty in people. Whether it's a father tossing his daughter in the air, or you're walking outside on a brisk autumn day as you listen to the multi-colored leaves crunch underneath your feet, or you witness someone tasting a dish for the first time, beauty is everywhere.
Beauty is a culmination of love for your fellow man and experiencing the blessings of life to the fullest.
We all have our own definition of beauty and Nigel said "it's our imperfections that make us perfect". That's when it clicked. That's when I thought about the way my right eye closes a little when I pose for a picture. Think about that scar on that person's face that gives him character and tells a story. Reflect on how it blends in with his skin to cause a dimple to match the ones when he smiles at you.
I see beauty in love. I see beauty in nature. I see beauty in people. Whether it's a father tossing his daughter in the air, or you're walking outside on a brisk autumn day as you listen to the multi-colored leaves crunch underneath your feet, or you witness someone tasting a dish for the first time, beauty is everywhere.
Beauty is a culmination of love for your fellow man and experiencing the blessings of life to the fullest.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Friends...How Many of Us Have Them?
I was inspired by 80s hip hop group Whodini for the title of my post. Moreover, I was inspired by the recent move of two people who've grown to become more than my friends. They've become by big brother and big sister (how I fondly refer to them).
The other day, I had an epiphany. It's amazing how we as humans wait until important people in our lives leave (through death, relocation, etc.) to let them know how we truly feel about them.
For me, my friends are an extension of my family. It's not often you find people who you can relate to, know what you're thinking or can finish your sentences. How about the ones who challenge you, inspire you and motivate you? Let's not forget to mention the ones who share your taste in music, cuisine and fashion (or introduce to new experiences).
You know what they say - "There are big ships and small ships. But the best ship of all is friendship." I love all of my ships and look forward to many more adventures to come! :)
The other day, I had an epiphany. It's amazing how we as humans wait until important people in our lives leave (through death, relocation, etc.) to let them know how we truly feel about them.
For me, my friends are an extension of my family. It's not often you find people who you can relate to, know what you're thinking or can finish your sentences. How about the ones who challenge you, inspire you and motivate you? Let's not forget to mention the ones who share your taste in music, cuisine and fashion (or introduce to new experiences).
You know what they say - "There are big ships and small ships. But the best ship of all is friendship." I love all of my ships and look forward to many more adventures to come! :)
Friday, August 13, 2010
Dust Your Shoulders Off Michelle & Sasha
Recent articles (this is just one example of many) reported First Lady Michelle Obama and her daughter Sasha are the subjects of negative discussion among Conservatives and other skeptics for vacationing in Spain.
I have to admit, I'm scratching my head on this one. I have to ask...is it just me or is this is not an issue? What's the problem?
A few weeks ago, I saw MY President (yes, I said MY and I didn't stutter, but I should say OUR) on "The View" where he mentioned Michelle and Sasha were on vacation, while Malia is away at camp. So, again I ask...what's the problem?
I'm really trying to understand the argument presented here. Was the trip too lavish? Do people think the Obamas' are snobby? From what I've read, some would say yes to both statements. But, as my dear friend from childhood Steven Q. Urkel would eloquently say, "Allow me to quote the 25th letter of the alphabet...Y?"
Since when is it a crime to take your child and company on a vacation outside of the country? Some argue it's not the most frugal choice, especially in lieu of the state of the economy. Whatevs...
The First Lady's been clocked for vacationing eight times this summer.
Here's what I have to say...are you ready?
MIND YOUR BUSINESS!
Don't you think there are other and more important matters that need more attention than where the Obamas' choose to vacation? I can't speak for Michelle, but I don't think she thinks she or her family are better than anyone else. What's wrong with a vacay outside of the country? I plan to travel to Nigeria in 2011, does that mean I'm stuck-up?
I've really tried to read several articles on this topic to read ALL points of view, but the more I read, I become more and more irritated.
I must be missing something...
I have to admit, I'm scratching my head on this one. I have to ask...is it just me or is this is not an issue? What's the problem?
A few weeks ago, I saw MY President (yes, I said MY and I didn't stutter, but I should say OUR) on "The View" where he mentioned Michelle and Sasha were on vacation, while Malia is away at camp. So, again I ask...what's the problem?
I'm really trying to understand the argument presented here. Was the trip too lavish? Do people think the Obamas' are snobby? From what I've read, some would say yes to both statements. But, as my dear friend from childhood Steven Q. Urkel would eloquently say, "Allow me to quote the 25th letter of the alphabet...Y?"
Since when is it a crime to take your child and company on a vacation outside of the country? Some argue it's not the most frugal choice, especially in lieu of the state of the economy. Whatevs...
The First Lady's been clocked for vacationing eight times this summer.
Here's what I have to say...are you ready?
MIND YOUR BUSINESS!
Don't you think there are other and more important matters that need more attention than where the Obamas' choose to vacation? I can't speak for Michelle, but I don't think she thinks she or her family are better than anyone else. What's wrong with a vacay outside of the country? I plan to travel to Nigeria in 2011, does that mean I'm stuck-up?
I've really tried to read several articles on this topic to read ALL points of view, but the more I read, I become more and more irritated.
I must be missing something...
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